Let’s face it. Some people are hard to like. Sometimes the best thing we can say about another person is “Thank God she’s not on my team, and I don’t have to work with her.” Spending time with her is not easy. The way she behaves, the way she talks, her attitude – everything […]
Posts with the ‘Coaching’ tag
Leaders are not supposed to be selfish. But, in my job, I spend a lot of time trying to correct the most selfish leadership move a leader can make. And it is not just the obviously self-centered leaders who make it!
Give Courage! That is what it means to encourage someone. Some leaders often misinterpret the whole notion of encouragement. They believe that encouraging someone is a soft skill or skill that only bubbly personalities use. But it’s not that simple.
There is no reason to have sports at a school if character is not being developed through athletic participation. Sports provide the best labortory for teaching our kids about character. But, just because our sons or daughters play a sport, does not mean they are learning the lessons of character sports can teach.
A lot of people do not like performance reviews. Many times it is the anticipation of bad news that can cause anxiety in the individual. The fear of the unknown can overwhelm people. That’s the problem. Nothing that is discussed in a performance review should be unknown. That is why they are called performance reviews […]
If we are not developing our people, we should stop calling ourselves leaders! I don’t know why leaders ignore the coaching part of their jobs. But I work with so many organizations and hear the same story again and again. “I never hear from my boss unless something is wrong.” “I get feedback once a […]
“Listen until it hurts!” – Steve Wiley, Lincoln Leadership Institute I have to work at listening well. I know I can look someone in the eye, nod with conviction, and be thinking about something else. At other times, I hear the first sentence and spend the rest of my time formulating my rebuttal. Listening is […]
Is this scene familiar to you? The boss walks through the office and says “Good morning” to people before closing his door until lunch. He walks back through the office after lunch saying “Good afternoon” to people before closing his door until he leaves the building at the end of the day. “See you tomorrow!”, […]
Sometimes I witness something that makes my blood boil. I see a kid dismiss a coach’s advice during a game. They give the coach that “whatever” look or in some cases even verbalize their bad attitude. I want to jump out of the stands and shake them. I want to say, “Who are you to […]
Sometimes the tyranny of the urgent dominates a leader’s efforts. If that is the norm and you are not developing your people, you may be managing just fine, but you are not leading. You can be a good manager without being a good leader. You can’t be a good leader without being a good manager.